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Breaking the Silence: How to Talk to the Men in Your Life About Their Mental Health

Mental health is often viewed as a taboo topic, especially when it comes to talking about it with the men in our lives. However, it is important that we break this silence and start having open and honest conversations about mental health-especially when it comes to depression and anxiety. Here are some tips on how to talk to the men in your life about their mental health in a way that is comfortable for everyone involved.

How to talk to men about mental health, Talens Health Support Services


  • Why men's mental health is often viewed as a taboo topic

  • The importance of breaking the silence and having open conversations about men's mental health

  • How to talk to the men in your life about their mental health in a way that is comfortable for everyone involved

Why men's mental health is often viewed as a taboo topic

Depression and anxiety are very common mental health disorders, and they often go untreated because men are reluctant to talk about their mental health. This reluctance can be due to a number of factors, such as the stigma surrounding men's mental health and the belief that men should be strong and not show weakness. However, it is important to break the silence and start talking about men's mental health, because left untreated, depression and anxiety can have serious consequences.

It is important to talk about mental health with men.

Recent statistics show us that fewer men than women are likely to access psychological therapies, with only 36% of referrals to mental health and therapy services being men.

The importance of breaking the silence and having open conversations about men's mental health

Mental health is an important issue for everyone, but it can be particularly difficult for men to talk about. This is because men are often taught not to show weakness, and mental health issues can be seen as a sign of weakness. As a result, many men suffer in silence, afraid to seek help.

Talens Health support services can help break down communication barriers through online counselling

However, it is important to break the silence and have open conversations about men's mental health. By doing so, we can help the men in our lives feel comfortable talking about their feelings and seek help when they need it. Mental health is something that should be talked about openly and without shame, and we can all play a role in breaking the silence around men's mental health.

How to talk to the men in your life about their mental health in a way that is comfortable for everyone involved

If you are not sure how to start a conversation about mental health with the men in your life, here are some tips:

Make an observation

If you notice that someone seems to be struggling, gently broach the topic by saying something like, "I've noticed that you seem to be under a lot of stress lately. Is everything ok?". By noticing a change in someone's behaviour, you can open up a conversation about how they're feeling without putting them on the spot.

Share your experience

For men who have a hard time opening up about their feelings, it can be helpful to start the conversation by talking about your own experiences. For example, you could say something like, "I've been feeling really anxious lately and it's been tough to cope. I'm sure you're feeling the same way too."

By sharing your own experiences, you display that it is ok for them to talk about their feelings, and it may encourage them to open up.

Physical activity can help improve mood and is a good way to approach difficult conversations

Walk and talk

Sometimes, it can be easier to talk about difficult topics while doing something else. Perhaps suggest going for a walk together. This can take the pressure off of having a deep conversation, and make it feel more like a casual chat than a type of intervention. Physical activity can encourage the release of feel-good chemicals in the brain, so getting them outside for a walk may also help to boost their mood.

Acknowledge difficult situations

If the men in your life are going through a tough time, such as a divorce or the death of a loved one, let them know that you're there for them and encourage them to talk about how they're feeling. Acknowledging that times are tough can make it feel more ok for them to express their emotions. Saying something like, "I know it can be difficult to lose someone you love. If you ever want to talk about it, I'm here for you" can show them that you care and provide a safe space for them to talk about their feelings.

By directly addressing the situation they are going through, you can show that you understand how tough it is, and make it easier for them to open up about their experience.

Ask twice

Research by the mental health anti-stigma campaign, Time to Change, found that when asked, over 78% of people would tell friends and family they are ‘fine’, even if they are struggling with a mental health problem.

If someone doesn't want to talk about their mental health, don't force them. But it can be helpful to ask twice, in case they didn't feel comfortable opening up the first time. For example, you could say something like, "No really, how are you?" or "Are you sure there's nothing you want to talk about?". This can show that you are still interested in talking, and they may feel more comfortable opening up the second time you ask.

Ask twice if someone is ok. Talking about men's mental health with Talens Health support services

Whatever approach you take, it is important to be respectful, understanding and patient. Remember that everyone deals with mental health issues differently, and some men may find it harder than others to talk about their feelings. If someone is not ready to open up, that's ok. Just let them know that you are there for them when they are ready to talk.

When to seek professional help

There are many ways to get professional help, such as seeing a GP, talking to a counsellor or therapist, or calling a helpline. If you are not sure where to start, you could try looking up mental health services in your area, or searching online for helplines such as the Samaritans or Mind.

Encouraging someone to seek professional help can be a difficult conversation to have, but it is important to let them know that there is nothing wrong with getting help.

If someone is in immediate danger, or you are worried that they may hurt themselves or someone else, it is important to seek professional help immediately. In the UK, you can call 999 for emergency services or the Samaritans on 116 123.

Talens Health Support Services offer online counselling sessions, with BACP-registered counsellors for as little as £25 per session. Visit the website today to learn more and book in for your first session for free.

Talens Health Support Services Online therapy and Counselling

At Talens Health Support Services, we understand the importance of men's mental health and are committed to providing therapy services that help men manage their emotions and resolve issues in a constructive way. If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, please don't hesitate to get in touch with us. We are here to help.

Medical Disclaimer


The contents of this article are not intended to be a substitute for medical advice from your doctor or therapist. If you have any concerns about your mental health, you should seek professional medical advice from your doctor. Do not delay seeking medical advice, or treatment for your mental health because of the information on this blog.


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